It’s funny – this discussion came up last night, before I sat down to read Neil’s stuff: there’s something that’s bugging me and I’d love to get it off my chest and maybe resolve it, but is it something my friend wants to hear? Will it help the relationship, or break it, even if just a bit?
The question for me is when I need to put down my selfishness (thinking just of my needs), and when I need to stop being a doormat. There is an option which includes me holding my tongue for the sake of not injuring someone else, but also removing myself from harm’s way. But even that is tricky stuff.
The phrase that keeps coming to mind is the instruction to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). If I can’t be loving, until I figure out a way, I probably need to keep my mouth shut…and pray for wisdom.
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